Transitioning...Is that what I'm doing?

I'm new to this site...and oh so grateful for it! In fact I'm so excited, I really don't know where to start.

I'm a 30-something, Afr-Am who hasn't relaxed her hair since Dec. 2007. I think my hair is somewhere btwn 3c and 4b...maybe patches of each here and there throughout my head. My edges are kind of thin and I can usually get them to lay down, but the middle is one big poof ball. I'll have to post pics of my hair so you all can see what I'm working with.

I've been to a salon twice in the last 9 months for deep conditioning, trim my ends, press 'n curl, but for the most part I've been going at this alone...and probably not doing a very good job of it. Usually, I shampoo my hair, use a moisturizing conditioner and put a combination of mousse and gel on my hair, comb it straight back..I even break the hair care rules and use a brush on my wet, curly/kinky hair to get it to lay down...and I tie it up with a "stocking cap" and a satin scarf. For the next few days, I can pull off a decent ponytail. When I can't, I wear a head wrap.

I'm tired of spending money on products that don't really do anything for my hair, or that work for a few weeks and then stop. If I could find a good salon in the Detroit, MI area that knows how to handle 3c - 4b hair, they would have 1/2 my paycheck every 2 wks!

I finally found out that I actually have curly hair and I want to be able to work with it, but I'm getting frustrated. I don't want to go back to relaxers, but I'm not sure what to do with this.... Any advice for a newbie CG?

Last edited by MsPooh; 09-17-2008 at 02:21 PM.
yes, you are in the process of transitioning. You've been doing good by getting it trimmed. Do you still have perm on your hair?

More than likely, as you do more reasearch, you will find yourself adding additional ingrediants to your commerical products, ex: honey, coconut oil, extra virgin olive oil, aloe vera.

It can be hard in the beginning (for some) trying to find what products work for you (them).

If you feel comfortable and havent already, I suggest you cut the rest of your permed hair off. If not, continue to do what your are doing, making sure your scalp stays clean and your hair is moisturized.

Thank you, sugahoney. I think the very ends of my hair may still be relaxed, but since my ends are so raggedy, I think I'm gonna need a cut anyway. I'm afraid of doing a BC right now...I can't function w/short hair, but trimming is up my alley.

I have been doing some research on products and there are quite a few I'd like to try. I just can't afford the experimentation right now. I guess that where some of the frustration comes from...not being able to spend what I'll probably need to spend (in time & $$$) to successfully go curly.

Thanks for listening to me whine...and thanks for the advice!
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I don't want to go back to relaxers, but I'm not sure what to do with this.... Any advice for a newbie CG?
Just be patient. This type of hair isn't meant to "lay down". Poof is its core competency. Learn to work with the poof.
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I totally feel you girl, we're pretty much in the same boat. But don't feel discouraged. Look at some of the frequenting ladies' posts. They have a lot to offer. Tap them for their knowledge. That's what this site is for. Ladies who have embraced themselves helping others to do the same. You'd be surprised how much support is here. And like me, if you don't have the money to spend on product, check the natural section. Concoct your own products based on what works for you. Do the research. Unfortunately it is about trial and error, and what works for one may not work the same for another. But keep trying until you find your niche. Your goal should be health, then everything else will fall in line. Good luck girl!
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