How do you deal with people who try to make you feel bad about your decision to go natural?
I Big Chopped in April and I've had a lot of positive feedback. However, a close friend of mine and I were talking on the phone the other day and she pretty much told me that I'm ugly because of my short, nappy hair. ( She said that if I don't cut my hair anymore, maybe men will like me after I leave my husband. Also said that she doesn't like my hair and nobody else does either.) I'm super sensitive and my self confidence took a big hit. How do you keep comments like that from getting to you?
Tell her that black hair grows just like everyone elses. It'll grow back.In the mean time, advise her to pray about it. If it's really bothering her, suggest that she makes an appointment with her Doctor ASAP. Also direct her to helpful websites which can shed more light on her condition such as curly nikki and naturallycurly.comWhen you've done that, put the phone down and stay your fabulous self, safe in the knowledge that your TWA is not going to cause WWIII.
You are beautiful. It is in some peoples nature to try to make others feel bad about themselves. She is ignorant because I can assure you, you look great. Your hair will grow back and it will be soft and fuller and more beautiful than hers could ever be. Lift your head high, you big chopped for you, not for anybody else.
Re: my answer-- I'm actually suggesting you tell her that, I'm not joking. It can be really hard to brush off, I've been worn down by similar ignorance. It hurts when it's a friend too. Some people are beyond help because they don't want helping/educating. The best way you can answer her rude comments is to live your life in happiness and joy. You don't need to prove anything to her anyway- if she's your friend, she'd realise that.