my daughter is almost 17 and has very curly hair. she hates it. i would like to know how to tame it

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Hi, I'm 17 myself. I have been natural for about 4 years. When I started, I didn't let anyone touch my hair for the most part. I would try to encourage her to be more independent when it comes to her hair: watching videos, looking at different hairstyles she would like to achieve. The best thing I think would be to get her to play around with her hair (probably on a weekend just in case, there were times that I ended up with not so presentable hair).I'm not sure about her hair type, nor am I sure about mine (maybe primarily in the 4s and a 3c-like texture in the back). To tame it, teach her how and when to detangle. Never detangle dry hair. I primarily do my detangling with conditioner in my wet hair, it makes it easy for me. Take it slow, section by section, using a wide-tooth comb starting from the ends and working your way up. Once done detangling that section, I simply twist it so I don't have to worry about it until I'm washing it out. It takes a bit of practice,  but once you get in the rhythm that's right for you, everything is better. I hope she embraces her curls, and knows that she has many options to manipulating them to be more manageable. These are just a few things that I do, but everyone's hair is different...