Recently stopped straightening my hair, its so damaged and I have many questions!

Okay so I have 3b hair but a huge patch in the back around my crown and middle centre is just dry and frizz (looks a little like 3c). I recently, and by recently I mean 4 days, have stopped straightening my hair because I want to embrace my curls! I love curly hair but have been straightening my hair for about 5-6 years now and I'm getting tired of it! My mother has gorgeous curly hair, and mine is just stringy near the tops and curly near the bottom now (although I do really like how most of the front looks),but the back is mostly my problem area due to the different texture of hair. Anyways, I'm not really sure where to start.. what shampoos/conditioners are best for me? should I even be shampooing? How often should I wash my hair? What is that frizzy patch about, is it damaged hair? What can I do about it? What products would you recommend for me? I have so many more questions that I can't think of at the moment, but basically I'd just love all your input! Also, I am not very familiar with the lingo and acronyms used on here! Please be specific, Thank you! (I've also attached a picture of the back of my hair, if you look closely you'll be able to see the frizz underneath some of the curls.)

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Okay, I'm going to try to answer all your questions!1. Try a shampoo by the brand SheaMoisture. I like them and I know a lot of people who use them. They're gentle and moisturizing. 2. How often you should wash your have to experiment. Some people have to wash their hair every 2-3 days because their scalp gets oily. Some people can go a week or more without washing their hair. In general, the less you can wash your hair the better!3. I think the "frizzy patch" may be damaged hair. Your hair is heat damaged so it would be a good  idea to use a lot of conditioner. A good one is the SheaMoisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner- it's great for damaged hair. Although, you can experiment with a few different conditioners to see which ones your hair likes best. 4. Overall, you want to make sure your hair is really well moisturized. Use good conditioners, leave-ins, (I like Kinky Curly Knot Today), and it would also be a good idea to sleep on a satin pillowcase. If you still aren't satisfied with your hair, I recommend getting a good haircut to get rid of some of the damage. You can also try different hairstyles to hide the damage.I hope I helped! Here's a video I think would be helpful as well: 
I'm gonna try to answer the unanswered questions:1. The shampoo and conditioner you should be using is anything that's sulfate-free. You will find that it has less or no lather but you'll get used to it. I switched to sulfate-free shampoo and conditioner about 6 months ago more or less (when I began my curly journey just like you) and I've seen a world of a difference, check out the photos if you don't believe me. What I use is not too cheap and not too expensive and its what I keep coming back to because my hair loves it so much: L'Oreal Paris EverCurl Hydracharge Shampoo and Conditioner.2.Now I see your question about the question of whether to shampoo or not. All I can tell you is to experiment. There is something we call co washing where basically you wash your hair using just conditioner, not shampoo, (make sure the conditioner is sulfate free). So when you wash your hair, you scrub your scalp like you would with shampoo except your just using conditioner. Now this is an option because it may not work for you; this is where you need to experiment and see if your hair likes it.3.You may have noticed that I said sulfate-free about 3 times already, but why are sulfates so bad? Sulfates, found in most shampoos and conditioners, strip the hair of natural oils and moisture, and if you haven't noticed curly hair need more moisture that regular straight hair. So as your finding new products to use while on your hair journey, try to look for 2 things: somethings that is natural and sulfate free, and something that is moisturizing. Check out this video from Curly Penny on how to spot out sulfate shampoos : There is so much more to say but unfortunately, I am not here to write a novel. However if you do have any further questions just ask and ill answer. If you want any further guidance, direct yourself to Youtube and you'll find plenty of help. I like to watch curly penny's videos because all her videos thus far have covered the basics of curly hair including her journey Heres her channel page: this helped and I wish you the best on your curly hair journey.