What can I put in my thick 4A tight curls to prevent frizz and help moisturize and soften my hair?

Sorry for this being quite long... I need help for my hair! My mother is white British and my father is black Jamaican and I was born with very thick head of hair... Due to my mother finding it very difficult to manage my hair when I was younger, I ended up absolutely despising my hair and that resulted into relaxing my hair at the age of 14. But after realising that I am not the only person that finds it difficult to manage my kind of hair, and realising that you can actually be happy with it, I started transitioning my hair in January 2012 and have not used relaxers since. My hair shrinks a lot when I wash it, I cut my hair once a month to grow out the relaxed hair. There is about 3-4 inches left that I still needs to grow out, but I need to find out what I can use in my thick, dry, tight curls. I want to be able to wear my hair down in confidence, not up and feel ugly about it. I am learnin to love my hair, I just need tips on how to manage it. I need something to reduce frizz, help moisturize and soften my hair. Bare in mind that I'm based in the UK so I will need UK-based products. At the moment I use Argan Oil shampoo and conditioner when I wash my hair (once a week) and olive oil and Argan Oil heat defense spray when I am styling my hair. The shampoo and conditioner are really good for my hair, they really bring out the curls and my natural hair colour as I have dark red, ginger and blonde streaks. The heat defence spray makes my hair really soft, I use the heat defence & blow dry to stretch my curls out so they are looser. I also wear my 'doo-rag' to bed every night so that I don't damage my hair while I'm sleeping. But I want to know what to really put in my hair instead of treading on egg shells being afraid that every little thing is going to damage it!.. Any ideas?

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I'm so glad that you want to learn to love you hair and wear it with confidence! I wish you the best on your hair journey and hope that my suggestions will be helpful.One thing you can do to help with softness is actually to drink lots of water! Since hair grows from the inside out, its also important to put good stuff in (fruits and veggies and lots of water) to get healthy, soft hair growing out :)I believe you can get SheaMoisture there?? If so, SheaMoisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie is really good product for moisture and softness. http://www.curlyemporium.co.uk/coconut-hibiscus-c...For more moisture, I would also suggest that you consider co-washing sometimes or most of the time instead of shampooing. You can use a regular conditioner or a cleansing conditioner. Info on co-washing/no poo/curly girl method:  http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/curl-pr...I hope that helps!
Moisture: shea moisture kids curling butter cream is good light moisturizer with no build up. Frizz: Argon oil helps fight frizz and add shine.