Should I relax my hair again...for a while?

Okay so I've been transitioning since March 18th, 2015 and I cut off the relaxed ends this year, around February. Now that I'm fully natural, these few months have been very interesting and challenging for me. My mother really hates the natural hair and she really hates me going natural. Sometimes, I get frustrated with my mother and my hair because styling, drying, washing, etc is frustrating. It's kinda sad to say, but when my hair is in a protective hairstyle, I feel so much better about myself, and when it's time to take out my hair, I don't want to. When I have my natural hair out, my self-confidence drops...I was thinking that I could relax my hair for the rest of high school, and then in the summer I just cut all my hair off and start fresh and new. By then, I won't have my mom discouraging me and trying to "talk" me into relacing my hair again. Also by then, I would have a few wigs I could be wear for uni to grow and protect my hair. I love natural hair because it is so thick,versatile, and NATURAL but right now, I don't think I can handle it.

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Honestly, it's your choice, but if your natural hair is really bothering you right now, go for it. I know relaxing is seen as one of the ultimate evils against taking care of natural hair and I might get some hate for this comment, but I know just what it feels like to be in your situation. I live in a society where girls with glossy, sleek black hair are the norm, and they sometimes comment meanly or patronizingly on natural hair, and your self confidence just sinks. Though my curly parents have never discouraged me from relaxing, my traditional straight-haired grandparents would most probably like me to. Taking care of curly hair is expensive especially where I live, and very troublesome as well, especially if you're in school, where people will ask questions, touch it, RUN THEIR FINGERS THROUGH IT, and sometimes even the process of just washing it and refreshing it takes up a lot of time I could use for homework or studying. As long as you're aware of the consequences there can be to relaxing (transitioning back to natural is pretty... kind of hard), and if you really know in your heart that relaxing would really help you right now, then do it!