How am i supposed to style my hair? What on earth does my hair want! Never seems happy!

Could anyone help me with the styling of my hair? I have no idea how to style it. It is fairly curly underneath and around my ears (curls not waves) but on top it is wavy if im lucky! Its such a difference that the only way i can even it out is if i diffuse it but even then it takes for ever because its quite thick and i want to be able to just put mousse/gel/creme in it and just be on my way but how?? I have tried not towel drying it (towels definirelyt make the frizz and fluff worse), i dont comb it, not even with my fingers as that worsens the fluffiness (all i can really do if it needs separating is shake my head a little upside down) and i dont use conditioner as this just makes it limp and horrible. Should i use mousse? or is this just for curly hair? no idea anymore, after an hour of washing it tend to just throw it up.I have attached a photo (sorry about the face and lab coat!) of me when i have diffused it. (my profile pic is dried naturally but when i lived in cornwall-was always really wavy with the water there!)Thank you in advance :)

2 Answers

I recommend using a leave in conditioner, that would help with the frizz. Maybe try using small amounts of coconut oil or olive oil where ever the frizz is. Hope this helps :) 
I recommend using a leave in conditioner, that would help with the frizz. Maybe try using small amounts of coconut oil or olive oil where ever the frizz is. Hope this helps :)