How do I keep my natural and relaxed hair from becoming a tangled mess when I wash it?

I'm only about three to four months post relaxer while I only use heat on my hair once a month and when I wash it it becomes a dry, tangled, and unmanageable mess.

2 Answers

You're going to have to cut your hair at least every two months to get rid of those relaxed ends.  That's where your problem lays as far as tangling.  In the meantime you can pre poo your hair with organic coconut oil.  shampoo with sulfate free shampoo and make sure to use a GREAT detangling conditioner like SheaMoisture's Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner. Our JBCO leave in conditioner is also great for keeping the hair soft and manageable.  
Omg!! I remember those days! Every time it was wash day, I'd dread it because my relaxed hair eventually just ended up being unimportant to me as I began to focus on my natural growth. Problem was, the relaxed hair began to feel more and more like wiry dead hair. Every month, I'd grab the scissors and cut a little more of my relaxed hair off myself. It began looking so bad during the transition that I decided to wear it in braids. Three months later, when I removed the braids, I grabbed my scissors, used my Denman to help differentiate and I BC'd it myself because that hair was just a nuisance. I'd suggest a nice protective style until you're ready to BC because it does become more and more difficult as your new hair gets longer. In the meantime, use lots of deep conditioning products to keep that relaxed hair as soft as possible.