I need expert advice for my problem(s)

Hello my name is Lexi, I'm 13 years old, I'm bi-racial, and I am transitioning from relaxed hair back to my natural hair.  So here's my problem: I have no idea how to take care of my hair what-so-ever. My mother and most of my family are white, and they've been the ones raising me pretty much all of my life. They have no idea how to take care of African-American hair and as you might know, this is a big problem. My mother isn't too supportive of me switching back to natural hair, and she's been practically begging me to get it relaxed. But don't worry because I've been putting my foot down for the past 3-4 months. I don't want to have a big chop yet, because my new growth is right at the top of my ears and I honestly don't want an afro right now. I'm mainly trying to focus on making my hair healthy and strong before I do anything major. I've been using Moroccan Argon Oil shampoo and conditioner and I have been doing deep conditioning treatments at home at least once a week. I do not know my hair type yet, but I'm guessing that in the future, when I get my relaxed ends chopped off, it will be about a 4a or a 3c. My hair is very dry and it is breaking off constantly. I just need to know the basics on how to care of my hair, such as: Products I should be using, How often I should be brushing/combing my hair out, Easy and Cute protective hairstyles for school, Daily and Nightly routines, etc. I would greatly appreciate anyone's help right now.

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I´m not an expert in hair (I´m only 14) but I am an expert in my 3c curly hair. Sooo I´ll just tell you what I know and what I do and I hope it helps!Products: All NATURAL products. No silicones, sulfates or parabens. A lot of shampoos have drying and damaging sulfates so stay away from and use only sulfate-free shampoo. Or you can Co-wash (which is washing your hair with conditioner). The conditioner has to be a botanical, all natural one. I use Suave Naturals tropical coconut conditioner. It´s really easy to find and the family size is only 1.50-2.00. As for styling products I recommend...-Cantu Shea Butter leave in conditioning repair cream: It conditions and defines the curl. It´s only 4.99 in Walgreens-Shea Moisture Curl and Style Milk: (The whole Shea moisture line is great)-Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie-Organix Moroccan Curling Perfection Defining Cream-Organix Nourishing Coconut Milk Weightless MousseAnd to seal in the moisture I use: Suave Moroccan Argan Styling Oil These are some all natural lines that are great: Organix, Shea Moisture, Kinky-Curly, Deva Curl, Cantu, Mixed Chicks and more!Combing/Brushing: I finger comb, I really like it but its not for everyone. Try it and if you don't like it use a wide-tooth comb. Only comb in the shower, after shampooing or cowashing and only when your hair is saturated in conditioner.Hairstyles:1. Do a high ponytail then take chunks of hair, tuck the ends on your head and pin all the way around to make a high bun. Leave some shorter, tighter curls out if you want to.2. Twist all of your hair up and pin or secure with a clip leaving a few curls to frame your face.3. On hair day 4 or 5 when my hair is big and frizzy I like to  do a twist out it retains length and looks really cute. If you don't know how to look up tutorials on Youtube.Weekly Curly hair routine:-Wet hair in shower. Wash hair with sulfate-free shampoo or botanical conditioner just on your scalp. Rinse.-Apply generous amounts of conditioner to hair. Let it sink in while you wash your body. Then finger detangle. Rinse again a little but leave some  conditioner (I leave most) in your hair.-Dry hair with a t-shirt or microfiber towel (normal towels create frizz)-Apply styling product then seal with styling oil.-Let air dry or diffuse (I air dry)-To add more volume in my roots I rake my fingers on my scalp (while leaning my hair over) and shake your fingers. Then just slide your fingers out of your hair.To Fix your dry hair:Deep condition! Do this once a week until your hair is soft and healthy then just do it every 2 weeks. You can buy a deep conditioner or you can make one yourself. Look online for some diy deep conditioners!I hope this helped!