How can I tell if my hair stylist really knows how to handle/care for transitioning/natural hair?
Hi everyone, I'm a big fan of this site and I finally decided to register for an account. A little background on my hair situation. I have been transitioning for roughly 5-6 months. I have at least 4 textures throughout my hair that range from 3c-4c. I just hit a point where I am extremely frustrated and confused when it comes to caring for my multi textured extremely thick hair. According to my mom I've always had "nappy unmanageable" hair because it has always been very thick. So, I've been getting my hair straighten with relaxers, flat irons, hot combs, etc. for as long as I can remember. I have no idea what my natural hair texture should look or feel like. My mom or older cousins would always do my hair so I really never knew what heat damaged or chemical damaged hair was or looked like. all I knew was my hair Never grew past my hairline. When I was 16 I started going to the hair salon. my hair began to grow and I couldn't be happier. After about a year or so I noticed even though my hair was growing it wasn't as thick as it once was. Of course I ignored it because I was finally getting length. Slowly but surely all of the hair on the nape of my neck and my temples started to break off. My stylist said it was because I wasn't coming in for washes between relaxers. So I started coming more frequently and it seemed to improve my hair for a while before it started to happen again. This continued for a few more years. Last year after a practical no hair on my left temple and a "fade" all the way up to the middle of my the back of my head, I was done. I officially started my transition January of 2015. My stylist was all for it and thought it would be a good idea to cut back on the relaxers. however after about 2 months she seemed unsure about my decision as my roots started to get thicker and harder to manage. At month 3 she started to make comments about how my hair was improving and I could return to relaxers. I declined because I didn't think so and I really wanted to get my hair to or as close to its natural healthy state as possible. from month 3 until now every session consists of sly remarks about the texture of my roots, rough combing and HEAT!! I would sit under a hot dryer for about an hour, followed by a hot flat iron and an even hotter hot comb. I questioned the amount of heat being used on my hair, but was told it's fine because of the thickness of my hair. However,after reading pages like NC and watching a million YouTube videos, I don't believe that is true. I never had doubts when it came to my hair stylist, but now I'm not so sure. My hair is very dry and brittle especially around the edges. I never had issues retaining moisture before, so I'm beginning to think the constant heat, especially with the hot comb is damaging my hair even more. None of my go to styles or products are working and please don't get me started on my edges. every day is a new struggle with my hair and the breakage is starting again due to the dryness. I understand that every head of hair is different but I am in desperate need of assistance. All comments and suggestions are welcome. Thanks for your help and I apologize for the long post.