Any suggestions on what to do or what products to use to get my hair softer/manageable?
Have you tried Curl Junkie products? They work great for Type 4s.
Stay moisturized...there are many methods you can try. Trial and error will weed out the methods that doesn't work for you. Try the baggy/greenhouse method, L.O.C/L.C.O method, co-wash just to name a few. There are many products that work great for moisturization. HTH
Lusters pink hair lotion works for my hair and it's smells nice