Is oils a must to moisturize my hair?

I don't think oils are for me or maybe I'm using the wrong kind and brand.I just started using coconut not too long ago and I can't tell a difference if my hair is moisturized or not.I have used it by itself and with a creme of nature leave in which I later found out the ingredients so I stopped using.So right now I'm using coconut oil by itself.I have also tried olive oil,vitamin e and tea tree hair oil by Mega Care that I get from the beauty supply store.So I'm thinking maybe my hair doesn't like oil,maybe I should just use a oil idk which one on my scalp and Shea butter and Shea moisture curl enhancing smoothie.I don't really know plus I keep dealing with split ends, shedding or breakage and dryness.I'm lost and frustrated,I want to cut my hair off or something to not deal with it.Help please!

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First, things first: Oils are not moisturizers. When you think moisturizer, think water. Products that are water-based or that have water as the first ingredient are moisturizers. You need either a leave-in conditioner or moisturizer to go on freshly cleansed hair first. Sometimes I use regular, rinse-out conditioners that have mostly natural ingredients and leave them in. SheaMoisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie would be a good option for a moisturizer. Then, you can use an oil or butter or cream with oils and butters in it. It's up to you and what your hair likes. The oil, butter, and/or cream will help seal in the moisture from your leave-in or moisturizer. Here is a basic regimen suggestion that I hope will help put this in context for you: The most important things to remember are to keep it moisturized and to keep it simple. Don't start buying every product you see and don't try to pre-poo, clarify, cleanse, hot oil treat, henna, deep condition, and style every time you wash.Try conditioner washing to retain moisture. Cleanse with conditioner or a real co-wash product twice a week or more if you are very active. Once a week might be enough, just find what works for you. If you like shampooing better still, try moisturizing shampoos. My favorites are SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Shampoo (http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlproducts/view/10...) or Creme of Nature Argan Oil or another Shea Moisture shampoo. Whatever you wash with, make sure its sulfate-free. Only shampoo once a week if you can (if you are only shampooing and not co-washing. If you also co-wash, trade your co-wash for shampoo at least once every two weeks).After cleansing use a rinse out conditioner or deep condition (as often as you feel your hair needs it–at least once a month or every time you swap your co-wash for shampoo). You can use regular conditioner and add olive oil (or another oil) to it to make your own deep conditioner. (http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-ha...) Try as much as possible to finger detangle, in the shower (after it has sat in your hair for a bit), while your hair is wet and slippery with conditioner. Staying away from combs altogether has ended a lot of breakage and spit ends. Never comb your hair when it is dry. If you have to use a comb use a wide tooth comb.Use a water-based leave-in/moisturizer (water is the first ingredient) on damp hair. A lot of people (including me) like SheaMoisture products so that might be a good place to start. I specifically like the Extra Moisture Transitioning Milk as a moisturizer. Then, seal the moisture in with an oil or butter, like pure shea butter (just a bit), jojoba, grapeseed, avocado, argan oil...To refresh your hair in the mornings put some warm tap water or mix the water with conditioner or oil (trial and error to see what your hair needs or likes better) in a spray bottle and dampen your hair to make it easier to fluff it back up after sleeping on it. Sleep on a satin pillowcase or with your hair covered with a satin cap.I know it can be confusing and a lot to figure out, to see what works for your hair, but keep trying, do your research online, on youTube for product reviews, regimens and tips. Again, just keep your regimen as simple as possible and learn how to keep your hair moisturized, and which products are working and which ones aren't.If you've tried this and your hair still doesn't like oils/butters, then that's totally fine! Lighter oils might be better like grapeseed or jojoba or argan or Darshana Indian oil. Some people also seal in moisture with botanical (natural gels) which is great if you like to wear stretched styles or wash and gos.I hope that helps! 
Don't give up! With type 4 hair oils can really be beneficial to your hair. Coconut oil is the MOST popular and helpful for dryer hair types. It can be used as a daily moisturizer or you can use as a pre-poo or add to your deep conditioners. Be sure to get the unrefined, virgin coconut oil. Highly processed coconut oil will be no good to you. If this one is not doing it for you, try Argan Oil. These two oils, along with Avocado and Olive oil are penetrating oils and will moisturize your hair. You can also moisturize with formulated moisturizers and leave in conditioning treatments. If your ends are giving you the blues, it is time for a trim and while you're at it, take a look at your diet and make sure you are drinking an abundance of water and eating plenty of fruits, veggies and protein.