Hair is 3A/3B and is SUPER DAMAGED. Trying to get it healthy, but I am new to this! HELP!

I started this for my daughter. Her hair is very damaged. Dried out, frizzy, too long with dead ends, flat on top, ect. I am new to this and trying to get it back to a healthy point. At its healthiest it's between a 3A/3B. Hair is super dense with fine hair, down to her mid back,  and it is rat nest mess. Doesn't hold moisture worth a darn and I am guessing that's from the damage. How should I start? With cutting? Or with proper products? What is a good routine to try out? HELP!

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This is a fairly long answer, but I hope it helps you some. If nothing else, it should at least give you a good start. My friend has a daughter who's hair was in the same condition and some of the things below come from her baby's regimen. Even though the hair textures are different the principles are the same: keep it clean, moisturized, and detangled.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~`First you need a better regimen but you most definitely need a good cut. The damage will only get worse with time and make all healthy hair practices null and void. You can choose to trim her hair little by little or cut it all off at the same time. Either way the dead ends need to go. Wash day should include a pre-poo with a olive or coconut oil and a detangling session. Olive and coconut oils penetrate the hair shaft and are plentiful and inexpensive (in comparison to other oils). Use a shampoo comb and your fingers to work out the knots and tangles then braid or twist the detangled section out of the way. Cleanse hair with a gentle shampoo or co wash. Go section by section to make sure her hair stays detangled. DC  with a moisturizing conditioner (protein if needed). Rinse, apply leave-in and a sealant; then style. Avoid letting her wear her hair out and free as this is a recipe for tangles. Individual braids and twists keep hair stretched, fairly detangled, and knot free. If hair is worn out and free, apply a good curly pudding, smoothie, gel, or etc. to keep the curls moisturized and clumped together to avoid frizz and tangles. Lack of moisture breeds frizz and tangles so make every effort to keep baby girls' hair moist. Note: wetness does not equal "moisturized". Moisturized hair starts on wash day. So give her hair lots of attention and good moisturizing products. Wash day should occur weekly with gentle shampoo or a co-wash depending on which products you use. Co-washing can happen every few day if needed. Sections are the way to go to keep hair detangled. Don't be afraid to moisturize hair daily. Mix a little conditioner with water and a light oil to spritz her individual braids or twists with during the week to help them stay moisturized. Just be sure not to over do it. Overmoisturized will be mushy to the touch even when completely dry; this could lead to damage as the hair shaft is week. Quick tip that I use to check my hair for proper moisture: sound. If hair makes a sound when manipulate it is dry. Louder, raspy, crispy the sound-the drier the hair. Properly moisturized hair should be ALMOST noiseless. Sounds weird, I KNOW but I read it on a website awhile back, tried it out, and my hair has been in good shape ever since. Product lines that might do well for her:Shea Moisture Kids line (reasonably priced found in most big name stores; all natural ingredients)As I Am (reasonably priced and easy to find; fairly natural ingredients)Just for me (cheap; a few "bad" ingredients; fairly easy to find)Using oils such as olive, coconut, jojoba, castor, and grapeseed will help the hair retain moisture and stay detangled. Oils allow strands to "slip" past each other which help them stay detangled and coat the strands to keep the moisture from escaping. (There's more to it, but its too complicated for me). You may not need much, but a little over top the moisturizer won't hurt.
I will reiterate the previous comment by saying that you need to get her a haircut. There is no way to actually repair split ends, which are the main cause of tangles and the so-called "rat's nest." The only way to get her hair healthy is to cut the damaged portion of her hair (either gradually or all at once) and then maintain a healthy hair regimen that will prevent future damage. The best cure for the "flat on top" problem is to have her hair layered. Weight is the enemy of every hair type, curly or straight, and layers remove weight and bulk from the hair without removing length. This will allow her hair to curl from root to end without unnecessary bulk weighing it down. Be sure to find a stylist who understands curly hair and texturizing techniques that won't cause her hair to look frizzy and frayed.
cutting the hair were the damage is would be a good start.after you cut the damage you should try not to put heat to the hair(if you use heat) and make sure the products you use are sulfate free.