Wavy but Enormous? Uncontrollable 2B

My hair is, by my best guess, type 2b. It strays into 2c occasionally but most of the time it's fairly consistent.I've tried a million different products and methods, but my hair is fluffier than a mad scientist's. My father has the same hair and at 50 still has a small afro even though he's lost half his hair. My hair does the same thing even though it's a third of the way down my back; even though it's really thin, it looks enormous.My main question is, how do you guys control your crazy hair? I've tried styling products but they all either make my hair feel extremely heavy, don't last, or take an hour and a half to do. Any advice/recommendations would be great!Also: I'm considering cutting my hair about shoulder length. Any advice on that?Note: contrary to what people I've asked think, my hair isn't tired etc. I don't blow dry or straighten/curl, and I don't use large amounts of products (since I can't find any that work.)

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My advice is to get a consultation from a professional who is proficient with naturally curly hair.  My stylist does this for free at her salon.  Make sure from review online or whatever, that she knows her stuff.  If she does, she will know the right products, but also the best way to cut and shape your hair.  I like the Deva salons, but do some research and choose one that appeals to you.  In your case, I think the cut will make most of the difference.  
It's hard to tell without a photo, but it sounds like your curls aren't "clumping" together, so you're lacking curl definition. There are a few things you can do to encourage your curls to clump, like applying a small amount of product throughout your wet hair and then twisting the curls around your finger to encourage them to form, and then scrunching them from below to put the shape back into them. Here's a good article about clumping:http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/hairstyles/curl-clumping-tutorialI also agree with curlykali, in your case a Deva cut could make a world of difference. If you're not familiar with Deva cuts you can look at before & after photos to see how they transform the curls by cutting each curl based on its shape. 
I would suggest that you aim for trying a frizz-fighting product. Weather & climate can be big factors in how your hair acts. The more humidity in your area, the more likely your hair might be to getting "fluffier" or "poofy". Also, be sure to moisturize your hair- opt for a light refresher spray to hydrate your curls.
Post a pic! Do you do a raking or a twisting technique to get clumps? That really works for me. I like the twisting technique best. Here's some info about it. http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/curly-hair-care-methods/the-skip-curl-method
This is a picture of my hair at its absolute best (that I've managed.) It lasts for a few hours and then poofs up again. http://imageshack.com/a/img843/9895/5qx0.jpg Also, I've tried the twisting technique, but I find it doesn't work very well on my hair. Most technique that have you shape individual curls/waves I don't like, because I don't actually have a lot of hair (and I like to keep my peers thinking I do XD)
I don't have that much of an answer for you aside from what the other comments say (sorry :/) but I just wanted to say I got really excited when I clicked on your picture because you are one of the only people I've ever seen with the exact same curl pattern as me! Best of luck!
I had the same problem. I got my hair cut in layers in the back and face frame in the front. I started using a prepoo(Suave Naturals Almond+Shea Butter condish), and use Fructis Damage Eraser condish as a R/O and L/I..I finish with Fructis Sleek and Shine Anti-Humidity hairspray..No more issuee