What to do about matted second-day hair?

I am new to Naturally Curly, and just found out that I should not be washing my hair every day as I have been doing for years to keep it looking smooth and tangle-free (ordered CG so I can learn more!). I've been trying second-day hair recently, but I've found that it just gets super matted and ratty looking by mid-second-day. I'm pineappling at night and using a refreshing spray on day 2, but without finger-detangling it looks hopelessly ratty and matted and awful, but then the finger-detangling wrecks the curls. I have 2b-c hair, low density, fine-medium thickness and very long (lower back length). Any tips greatly appreciated!

6 Answers

A satin bonnet would be really helpful for your long hair. But if you can't sleep with one then maybe a pineapple with a couple of tiny claw clips holding your ends in a "scrunched position" so they don't rub all over the pillow? Also, a satin pillow case would be a necessity if you do the latter. I think with your hair type you can't finger detangle and have curls so your aim is to find a way to preserve it better. I like Shea Moisture Yucca & Plantain Moisture Milk on my wet hands as a refresher. I only sometimes use a water/conditioner mix as a spray but have to be careful not to get thin stringy waves from that (mine are already thin and stringy enough!) What is the refresher you use? 
I'm using Mist-er Right by DevaCurl as a refresher. Most of the tangling happens during the day I think, as the underside of my hair rubs up and down against my back, and I'm not really sure what to do about that. I'll definitely check out satin bonnets though, thanks!
if you are happy with your refresher and it looks like you would like when you leave the house then it probably is the friction against your clothes. I get that at my neck with collared shirts/jackets. I don't know a fix. If you find one share. 
if you are happy with your refresher and it looks like you would like when you leave the house then it probably is the friction against your clothes. I get that at my neck with collared shirts/jackets. I don't know a fix. If you find one share. 
It looks ok when I leave the house, but definitely very tangled underneath. The more I think about this the more I think I can't really go all of day 2 without detangling or it's extremely obvious and matted-looking from every angle (I can post a pic sometime so it's clear what I'm working with), so maybe I should detangle and refresh, then protect at night, then spot-refresh in the morning?
Ok here it is on a very good day right after a wash and dry and then at the end of a second day. At the end of the first day it was matted so I finger-detangled, used the Mist-er Right refresher spray, put it up in a high folded-over ponytail bun and slept in a satin bonnet. This morning I used the refresher spray again and went about my day, and by this afternoon it was really snarled.