Top 10 in 10: Curly Concerns


2011-11-17 15:07:10

Top 10 in 10: Curly Concerns

From their unpredictability to how to how to make them look professional, you told us your biggest curly concerns


We asked our CurlTalkers for their biggest concerns about your curls and kinks, and they told us. The answers covered a wide range of topics, from self-image issues to finding a good stylist. Here are the ones that rose to the top of the list.

  1. Triangle Head! On a similar note, many people cited "Flat Top."
  2. Finding a stylist who understands how to work with curls. "Finding a stylist who knows how to deal with curly hair without making their curly client look like a mushroom when done. (nightmare process! I just went six years without a professional cut!)" said CurlyCassieRo.
  3. Finding Holy Grail products. "Countless people can say, 'Oh this product really worked for my hair and it'll work for you too,' but then you try this billion-dollar product and you end up with straw-hair. Believe me, it's happened to me!" says Alannah Angel.
  4. Unpredictability. "With the same routine every single day for 30 days, I can have 20 different heads of hair in a month, and maybe only half of them are good, if I'm lucky," says PrettyPorcupine. "I know you're just supposed to 'embrace' its 'unique' personality and be all 'free and easy,' but let's face it - that is just not realistic when you have to look decent for work every day, want to be sure you look good on a date or for a special event, or because you just are so fricking tired of not knowing how the hell your hair is going to look at any given time."
  5. Acceptance of curls in society and in the workplace. "Every time I pick up a magazine or see a segment on a TV show about 'how to manage your curls,' the answer is always to straighten them! It's insulting," says Tinah. "The mainstream media pushes straight hair as the only acceptable option. Just once I'd like to read an article on how to manage curly hair that actually tells me how to manage curly hair, not how to make curly hair straight. I'm pretty sure we ALL know how to make it straight! We've spent years doing it!"
  6. Second-day hair. "And maybe even third day and fourth day hair," said CurlTalker Desert Flower.
  7. Frizz! "Dealing with frizz constructively (i.e., no baseball caps or severe buns)," says PrettyMedusa.
  8. Curls in the workplace."Why should we have to worry about how to 'look professional?'" says rbb. "Why isn't the way you wear your hair everyday good enough for work? It's you!"
  9. Finding curly style options. "Most styles in mainstream beauty mags are geared towards straighties and perhaps some wavies. If it is a curly style, it is usually done on a straight head of hair, so the styling methods are different," says Redcelticccurls.
  10. Styling time. "It's hard dealing with hair if you are a frequent swimmer, runner, etc., when there's no time to do the whole routine afterward," says Rozettasone. "Some people spend half the day with wet or damp hair. By the time it's dry and looking its best, it's nearly time for bed!"
With all of these things, I can at least agree with five of them, and I'm a wavy! Frizz, unpredictability, second day hair, flat top(I actually want the opposite, but you get the point) and styling time. I swim a lot and I don't like how it takes my hair 3+hrs. to dry!
I can relate to all of these, especially 3, 7, and 9. I'm limited to 3 hairstyles: ponytail, bun, or letting my hair down (then pulling it back up because it gets too frizzy)
I can relate to most of these, though I don't go to a stylist (I don't like other people doing my hair). I've found when I'm pressed for time a ponytail or bun does find. You can dress it up with a headband or a skinny scarf. I would think that would be work acceptable. The one I don't understand is the unpredictability and 'looking decent'. Unless you go to work with your hair looking the exact way it did when you rolled out of bed, the general consensus would be that it would look decent. I think we still have the straight hair mentality of looking decent, where everything is laid to the side and every hair in it's "proper" place.
i defintly agree with all of the above. I would love to wear my hair curly all the time but i dont want people to be starring at me like i have some alien on my head! why do people stare so much when a black woman wears her hair curly? when i wear my hair straight, no one stares or acts like they want to touch it. but if its curly, i get pitiful looks, like, "aww you poor thing" as if its such a curse or a punishment to have naturally curly hair. the fact is, it isnt as accepted as straight hair is and its not fair. i want to love my curls but its hard when society deams curly hair as un-kept and unruly and it means your hair isnt done if its not straight! says who? who made up that dumb rule!?
Good for you Rose Gregg. I am 57 and have worn my hair "natural" since high school. When I went to have have my graduation photo taken I remember the photographer's assistant came over to me and started trying to arrange my short hair into individual curls. I just ran my fingers through it when she was done to break up her fake curls and the picture, taken in 1970, looks totally ahead of its time. Almost everyone else in my class were photographed in beehives and teased hairstyles from the '60s. My look is timeless.
I am 56 years old and have battled my curly hair my whole life. I still get looks and comments about my hair but I figure if you don't like it don't look at me. I love curly hair. I am old but at least I don't have my hair clinging to my head like a helmut. No one tells a bald man or curly haired man to get a wig or straighten his hair. I have been liberated since I found I think all us curly girls should unite, whether we are white, black, Spanish, etc. We are beautiful too.
all of these are true. thats why alot of people with curly hair straighten it cus its so hard to do stuff with curly hair when you dont have as much time in the morning. i have like 30 minutes in the norning to get everything done and its hard trying to make it so that my hair looks good.
If the #1 concern is a good stylist, then why oh why don't more people post (and update) reviews in CurlSalons? I move frequently and have so much trouble finding someone to properly cut and style my curls. I promise to post a review whenever and wherever I find a good stylist, and hope all others who depend on this website will do the same.
Great summary, I often have wet hair part of the day especially if I put it up and/or its humid.
I've had all of those concerns, too! Best styles are in Curly Girl book... I absolutely LOVE my curls now that I really know how to coddle them...and now they love me, too!!!!! I was a 3a/b before I started CG, but have since discovered that I'm truly a 3b/c now that I know how to get better curl definition! Thanks so much for this GREAT site!
It has taken me 34 years to get from hating my 3c hair to tolerating it to loving it. Good products and a good cut have made a huge difference but so has having places like this where I can see that I am not an anomaly! Fellow curlies, love your curls!
So true, so true! I totally relate to all of these. I don't have tons of time to spend primping my hair - nor do I want to spend a lot of time with my hair; I have better things to do. I always have frizzy hair.
Wow...I thought I was the only one complaining of these things!! It's all so true! Sometimes I just wish I could do 2nd day hair because I hate having a wet head half the day every day. Oh well...I guess beauty is pain, right? :) And Alison Sarro, I have been dealing with that issue for a while too. I love all the cute curly hairstyles that are in magazines, but I can never do them unless I straighten THEN curl my hair. It seems to defeat the purpose of "embracing the curl."
i agree with everything except number 10, i worry about my hair drying thats when it really starts to frizz.
All I can say to this is Amen! I adore my curls but I don't like my second day hair as much and now that its long(past bra strap) It takes forever to dry! Yaaargh!
I'm still new to the CG routine and it does take me longer but even when I'm having a "challenging" hair day it's worth the time because it makes me feel more uniquely me!
The last one is VERY true! It cracks me up that it takes me 3 times as long for my curly hair than it does just to straighten it! It's worth it, though. I really love my curls now!
ohhh i can totally understand the last one. grrr
I agree as well about magazines promoting straight hair. As a girl, my grandma who had straight hair would encourage my mom to straighten my hair. Today, I leave my curls natural. Thanks NaturallyCurly!
I totally agree with all of this. I don't even look at the magazines in hair salons any more. I never see a naturally curly girl in any of them. And, yes, we can tell the difference. I've had the same hair style for years: I keep my hair long with layers because that seems to work best. For once, I'd like to see curly girls who are proud of their hair in the media. We have hair to die for and I wish the media would protray that. I'm glad to be a curly girl! I'm proud of my bouncy spirals!!