Friend tells her she's prettier when she straightens her hair, but Emmi says she should do what she wants to do

Dear Curly Emmi: So last school year, I always wore my curly hair straight. I would straighten it out at lease four times a week, and it became really damaged, with all sorts of split ends and dead ends. At the end of the semester, I cut off about four inches and haven't straightened it since.

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I've gotten used to my hair curly, and I'm finally starting to like it! However, I was talking to one of my friends and when I told her I wasn't going to straighten out my hair anymore, she started trying to convince me that I should straight it out since I "look so much prettier with my hair straight" and blah, blah, blah.

The thing is, I don't want to straighten it. I like it curly, plus I don't want to have to go through the hassle of straightening out my hair every day, and almost everyone these days has straight hair. I want to be unique!

Why is straight hair seen as prettier than straight hair? What's wrong with curly hair?

A: First of all, you have an annoying friend. Second of all, you shouldn't care what she thinks. It's more important what you think. I don't want to go all guidance counselor on you, but you should do what you want to do.

And if you've looked at celebrities lately, curly hair is everywhere! Maybe when Taylor Swift was growing up, her friends told her to straighten her hair. But she wears her hair curly, and it's the feature that everyone talks about most.

In the end, it's all about how you feel about yourself. When I found out I needed glasses this year, I thought "I can work that look!" I picked out a really cool pair (they're brown with a cool design on the side), and now all my friends want glasses. It's all about confidence.

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I fell EXACTLY the same!! But what other people think doesn't matter to me and I realized that if a "friend" is saying that to me then they aren't a very good friend.
Way to Go! You obviously don't need anyone's approval. You appear to be very confident and that is what makes you beautiful! You know what you want, don't conform. This is a lesson for life. Don't be afraid to be yourself.
Firstly, the writer should not be ashamed of her curly hair. I find it unbelievable the pressure children are put under today to look and act like their peers. (Individuality is seen as something to be frowned upon instead of something to be admired.) Just remember, in paintings of angels, you don't see many with straight hair!