From dry spots to getting Cheerios out of hair, Cozy Friedman takes on your questions about how to work with your kiddos' curls
Q: I want to let my daughter's hair dry naturally. When it warms up it won't be an issue and she can bathe in the morning. In the past, she takes an evening shower or bath in the winter months, and just goes to bed with wet hair. Sure it would be perfect if we could take care of it after school so she could have time for her hair to dry before bed time. But this just isn't possible many nights. She also doesn't like the blow dryer so I rarely use one. Is it okay to sleep on her wet hair if she has curls?
Cozy: Of course it would be ideal if everyone with curly hair always had time to let their hair dry naturally in order to allow the natural curl to form. However, we all know that isn’t the case! So, in the morning, you need to re-activate your daughter’s natural curls. When your daughter wakes up, try spraying So Cozy Fruity Delight Detangler & Leave-In Conditioner into her hair and then “scrunch” the hair. This should help reactivate the curls and get rid of the frizz that occurred from the movement in her sleep. Since it’s a leave-in conditioner, it will help keep hair hydrated too.
Q: I have a 2.5-year-old daughter with beautiful, but very fine and very curly hair. It's very hard for me to keep her hair looking nice since she often twists her hair (making nasty knots) and she has a large spot on the back of her head that gets rubbed from pillows/carseats/etc. and thus it stays frizzy. I work very hard on her and it looks nice for about two hours. I know things will be easy when she's old enough to help me care for it, but I need some major advice. I am considering getting her hair cut so that at least I don't have has much hair to work with when I'm trying to get the knots out.
Cozy: Many people do in fact keep hair short to keep hair more manageable for younger children. However, you don’t have to go this route. Of course it will be more maintenance with longer hair, but that’s up to you decide how much time and energy you want to put into her hair. If you decide not to cut it, I recommend experimenting with putting her hair up in different styles. This will help prevent knots as well as discourage her from twisting her hair. Additionally, it will help prevent hair from rubbing in her car seat, etc., so frizz won’t be as much of a problem. Ponytails and braids are great alternatives, and stay neater longer.
Q: I need help with how to deal with both the dryness and tangling of my daughter’s hair. She is 10, so you’d think I’d have figured this out. But since I see grown women still trying to master their curls, I am not feeling so bad that I haven’t gotten this completely down! Her hair is coarse, like most curly hair. But it is actually pretty thin in density. She has spiral coiled hair. Also, she has some layers in it. My problem is that I cannot seem to find leave-in hair products to stop the dryness. Her hair is horribly dry, and she gets the worst tangles and knots. I am assuming the dryness is a contributor to the knots. It takes us a good 15 minutes or longer to untangle her mess — particularly underneath in back. She wears so many ponytails because I just don’t have time before school to deal with it. She uses a satin pillowcase, and we try to put loose scrunchie ponytails in at night. We only wash once a week and intensely condition with heat once a month. I only ever detangle when her hair is wet LOADED with conditioner, and I use a wide-toothed comb. I get it detangled to a point where I can run a fine-toothed comb through it (while wet and conditioned) with ease. So I am getting the knots out. I let it dry from near-soaking wet and do not towel dry or blow dry it. But by the next day, it is a wreck again. Help!
Cozy: You are doing a terrific job with your daughter’s tricky hair, and you are absolutely right that many adults don’t know how to deal with their curls, so you are many steps ahead! It sounds like you are doing the right treatments. Perhaps you just haven’t found the right hydrating product yet. You need to keep her hair as hydrated as possible. For ultra-dry hair, I have a secret tip. When you conditioner her hair, try leaving in a nickel-size amount of conditioner in it rather than rinsing it all out. This will help keep hair moisturized. I recommend So Cozy Sweet Strawberry Conditioner> It’s so thick and creamy, yet it won’t weigh hair down. Also keep in mind that there is no magical treatment that you can do once a week that will help you. It’s like making your bed. You need to do it everyday otherwise it’s a mess. Good luck!
Q: First of all, I want to point out that my 2-year-old daughter has extra-dry hair. I can't tell if it's a 3a or 3b, but it is rather dry. I've been getting it to look and feel more like it has some sheen with the help of oils and conditioners. But I don't know if that's a bad approach. I do use regular baby shampoo for her as well, and I don't shampoo her hair every day. She has this extra stubborn dry spot located at the bottom, back of her hair. I do use a lot of conditioner in that spot and it usually helps for a while, but it can build up after a while. Since it's not breaking off or anything (just growing rather slowly), I must be doing the right thing by keeping it conditioned as much as possible. Or am I? Is it common for toddlers to have a particular spot in their hair and scalp that seems considerably dryer that the rest of the hair?
Cozy: It’s not clear to me if it’s her hair or her scalp that is considerably drier in one particular spot. In either case, it’s not uncommon for a toddler to have multiple textures of hair or dry patches of scalp. If it’s the scalp, I recommend having your pediatrician take a look. If it’s her hair, continue to use a lot of conditioner, especially a leave-in conditioner. Try So Cozy Fruity Delight. You can use it as often as you like and will actually help hair look better while it’s conditioning, and to help prevent tangles at the same time.
Q: My little baby doll is quickly approaching one, and of course is refusing to let me feed her anymore. She has to do it herself. The only problem is that the food inevitably ends up in her hair! Corn, peas, black beans, sweet potatoes, Cheerio. It doesn't matter. I'd like to find a gentle shampoo that can get the food out of her hair.
Cozy: Make sure you are taking lots of pictures. She’s at the most darling stage! In the meantime, use a gentle tear-free shampoo like So Cozy Very Berry Shampoo. It’s Paraben Free (no synthetic preservatives) and formulated specifically for children so it won’t sting her eyes. Enjoy every cute moment!
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