Cozy offers great advice about working with kids' curly hair
Q: I have a precious 5-year-old daughter. She is biracial (black/white) and she has very soft curly hair. I need help with which products I should be using in her hair.
Mom needs help with selecting products for her 5-year-old daughter.
It’s hard to make a product recommendation without understanding what the problem is and what you feel you need help with. I suspect that her hair is on the dry side and that she would benefit greatly from moisturizing. She would certainly benefit from a thick and creamy conditioner (So Cozy Sweet Strawberry Conditioner), as well as a spray leave- in conditioner. Try So Cozy Fruity Delight Leave-In Conditoner & Detangler. This will keep her hair detangled as well as deliver the hydration her hair needs. Her hair is gorgeous!!
Q:My daughter is almost 8 with 3c hair. I have been trying to get rid of the frizz, I have been frustrated for some time. She is a a stage where she wants to comb her hair and play with it several times a day. I feel that if I keep telling her to stop playing with her hair that she is going to start to hate it. I just do not know what to do.
Cozy: Typically I receive questions about what to do with their kids who won’t comb their hair, so this is a welcome change! It’s wonderful that your daughter has taken such an interest in her grooming, but like anything else, all things are best in moderation! I suspect that this is just a phase, and the intensity of it will pass when she moves on to the next phase.
As for the frizz, combing and brushing curly hair will make it frizzy because it ruffles the cuticles, which is what makes it look fuzzy. Perhaps you can teach her how to work with her hair in a way that will look better and not make it frizzy. Also, if she is experimenting with styles like braids and ponies, that can help make it look better and keep frizz at bay.
Q: My youngest daughter has curly hair — little ringlets. It is starting to get a little frizzy around the top of her head. I need to know what products to get for her hair and how to use them. Please tell me more about how to care for her hair. I'm very new to curls. I have hair that is only curly underneath and have never been able to do anything with it. So I wear a ponytail every day! Thanks for helping a newbie!
Cozy: I’d recommend a light styling cream for her fine hair. You don’t want to use anything heavy or thick because that will weigh her fine hair down and will end up taking away the gorgeous curls. Try So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream after bathing. Just “scrunch” in a quarter size amount, distributing evenly around the hair. You can also use on dry hair in between baths as a touch up. Use a little less on dry hair.
Q: I have an 11-year-old daughter with hair that has been giving me a headache for the past five years. It's super thick and looks like she stuck her finger in a light socket! When she gets out of the shower, she has very pretty ringlets. But once it dries, it pops up into a frizz nest. I am clueless about what to put in her hair and how to style it. She just puts it in a ponytail. The ends are really dry and I have tried everything I can think of. I have straight hair so I don't know what to do to help her.
Cozy: The goal is to lock in those gorgeous ringlets that you see after she showers. Try an alcohol-free gel like So Cozy Groovy Grape Styling Gel. This will help to keep the cuticle smooth, which is what prevents frizz. You can experiment with how much to use, starting with a quarter-size “scrunched” in evenly throughout her hair. My secret tip for dried-out ends is to use a thick and creamy conditioner (try So Cozy Sweet Strawberry Conditioner) and not completely rinse out of the ends of the hair. This will help to lock in extra moisture that is needed to hydrate the dried-out hair.
Q: I have straight hair, but my kids have very curly hair, courtesy of their dad. A "friend" of mine told me that every picture she sees of my children, they look wild! I do admit I don't brush their hair a lot, as its always such a battle, gets very tuggy and I feel awful doing it. So normally it's only been shampooed and conditioned. Their dad is no use because he doesn't do anything to his! It's always frizzy, too. How do I tame the curls? Should I brush daily? What products could I use?
Cozy: This brings back memories! My hair was the same crazy hair you are describing. Good news—there is a way to deal with this that won’t be a battle and will solve your problems!
Don’t try to comb or brush their hair when it’s dry. Instead, get a wide-toothed detangling comb and keep it in the tub. Get So Cozy Lucky Lime Pre-Detangler, which was created to be used in the tub after shampooing. You can use this instead of your regular conditioner or in addition to it (extra moisturizer is always great for curly kids). Apply a generous amount and comb through hair and tangles. After bathing, “scrunch” in a light styling cream to avoid frizz. Let hair dry naturally (or if you need to blow dry hair, always use a diffuser).
Q: I'm Irish with straight, very thin, naturally red hair—but my daughter seems to have inherited my grandfather's semi-curly hair! So, blondish curls on top (wispy—kind of poodle like), easy-to-see-layers that I think will be wavy on the sides. I'm kinda at a loss as to how to care for it. My questions are:
- Shampoo suggestions? Mommy blogs have recommended The Original Little Sprout - Moisturizing Baby Shampoo. I have to wash it every night because she's a messy eater.
- What kind of hair brush? (And where to buy)
- Is brushing curly different than brushing straight hair? I feel like I'm flattening her curls, which I don't want to do... I just want to remove any tangles.
Cozy: You are right, brushing her curls isn’t the way to go. Instead, use a wide-toothed comb in the tub when you condition. This will remove the tangles and neaten things up. If you let her hair dry naturally, her natural curl will develop. The wavy hair on the sides will likely start to shape up a little. As for shampoo, I recommend So Cozy Very Berry Tear Free Shampoo; it was formulated specifically for children with 11 herbal extracts, including comfrey (soothes and protects) and horsetail (critical to hair growth). Plus, it smells so good that kids love to use it!
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