My Lightbulb Moment: I Belong to My Curly Hair!

2011-03-28 13:39:19

My Lightbulb Moment: I Belong to My Curly Hair!

Fully accepting your natural hair can be a tough road, but once you do it is fantastic!

wavy hair

As a wavy—curly pics to come!

I have been wearing my hair natural for almost a year now and it has been quite an adventure. I straighten my hair approximately once every three weeks just to mix things up a bit, but otherwise I am a full-on curly girl… or at least a very wavy one!

For a few days in a row it was extremely humid here in Austin, which isn't exactly uncommon, but not so common in the cool months here (both of them). When I say humid, I'm talking about the kind of humid where the moment you step out the door, you are drenched in sweat and your first instinct is to jump back in the shower. It was completely disgusting. I, being the genius that I am, decided to straighten my hair one night right before the humidity hit, but blew off checking the weather beforehand, which I will never, repeat never do again (did I mention I will never do that again?) If you are thinking "Wait, don't you work at NaturallyCurly? Don't you know about the Frizz Forecast?" The answer is yes to both. Why I did not use actually make use of this tool is beyond me. Learning from my mistakes!

The morning after straightening my hair, I woke up, did a quick touch up, and stepped outside. "What happened?" you ask. Shazam! Mother Nature put me in a hair time-out. Instant frizz and wave! I rolled my eyes, thwacked my forehead, trudged up the stairs to my cache of hair accoutrements, sighed, and threw my hair into a ponytail. Since I don’t wash my hair every day, and the humidity still permeated the Austin air, this same thing happened on Tuesday morning. My second thought was “Well, that was a waste of a straightening!” I won't tell you what my first thought was!

Alas, Wednesday morning my glory moment came in the form of a nice shampooing. After I got out of the shower and completed my morning routine, I looked in the mirror, smiled to myself and said, “Much better.” I often think my hair looks fine in the morning but that was literally the first time I realized how much I loved my hair in its natural state. I have enjoyed trying all kinds of products, finding out what routine works best for me, and spending less time doing my hair, but never had it occurred to me that I feel like I belong to my curly hair —and vice versa.

That lightbulb moment was a huge inspiration to me. I hope all curly girls have that lightbulb moment like I did. So often we feel like we need to conform to what the world tells us is beautiful—be it straight hair or shimmying into a size 2, but this lightbulb moment made me thankful that I have curly hair and am a size 6 (even if that sounds cheesy).

It also made me extremely grateful that I have taken the time to find out what products and techniques work, because my hair has developed bona fide ringlets. When I first started this journey, my waves didn’t start until about 3-4 inches down my head and it annoyed me. Now my curls start right at my scalp, proving to me that my hair is as happy with me as I am with it.

Writing this blog has made me realize that I am in love with my curls and I am thankful that I have reached this point, even if it did take me a year. If you are still waiting for your lightbulb moment, have patience! The journey can be a very difficult one, but once it happens you will be just as excited as I am. If you have had the pleasure of experiencing your lightbulb moment, take a second to tell us about your moment down in the comment section. Encouragement from other curlies is so helpful!

Wave On/Alyssa Hawkins

Wave On/Alyssa Hawkins

My lightbulb moment happened a few months ago after deciding not to blow dry my hair one morning - I realised I had WAVES (I am shortsighted and had not noticed them before). My hair is a bit longer now and it is wavy/curly but very much its own person - never the same from day to day. I have also stopped blow drying my fringe and am shocked to see that go wavy too. One little obsevation - I am in Australia and we pay a small fortune for products here - you girls in the US are so lucky - I cannot believe how cheap your shampoos and products are. I am still experimenting with a lot of products and this site is great. Thank you
When I was in my early 30's, I use to get a partial relax at a local salon until I was no longer able to afford it. I continued to do exactly what my hair dresser told me to do and after sometime had passed, I realized I was paying for my own hair!!! Over time I have discovered products that work with my hair and not I LOVE MY HAIR!!! I only straighten it once in a while to see how long it has gotten. Never had any length to it in the past. I'm trying to teach my girls to love their curls. They aren't ready just yet. I know they will eventually tire of straightening it and when they do, I will remind them of this website for tips.
My lightbulb moment came after I had a serious accident at work. I was born with dead straight hair and when i hit puberty my hair went out of control. It wasnt just wavy it was tight corkscrew curls. I couldn't stand it so always had it tied back in a really tight pony tail or bun. When i was 16 my cousin (who's hair did exactly the same thing as mine)introduced me to GHD's and there was no going back. I straightend my hair everyday. As my hair was so curly and I never really had it cut (after a really bad experience with a stylist who knew nothing about curly hair) when i straightend it, it was pretty much down to the bottom of my back. Within 5 years and only gettin it cut about three times and using countless amounts of heat protection, my hair was just above my shoulders!. My hair pretty much just broke off. I knew what i was doing but i just could not stop straightening my hair. Then I had an accident at work, and my whole left leg was put into a plaster cast for 6 weeks. From being extremly active to pretty much house bound I became depressed, which in turn made me not want to do anything with my hair, so i left it curly. After about 4 months my aunty came to visit me and commented on how long my hair had got and how healthy it looked. I had not really taken much notice but when i had a look i was pretty amazed too. That was my lightbulb moment. I decided to grow out all my dead hair (which was pretty much all of my hair) and start a new, with my curls. That was 2 years ago and now I can honestly say i cant stand my hair straight! My curls have calmed down alot, now they are type 3a curls and i love them. It was a long process but it was totally worth it.
proudcurlygirly: SO glad you love your curls now! It takes serious work but it's extremely worth it when it does happen! hippiechic81: nicely put :) couldn't have said it better myself! plunkybug: Thanks! this was actually late May of last year so my hair has gotten so much curlier. Like the caption says...I need to update my pictures!
"My second thought was “Well, that was a waste of a straightening!” I won’t tell you what my first thought was!" Your hair looks really nice in the pic on this page Alyssa.
I think it's so important for us to accept ourselves for who we are not what we want to be or what society THINKs we should be. We're all beautiful and unique down to the last curl!
My lightbulb moment, unfortunately for me, came after I had my hair relaxed. I realised how much I missed my curls and how stupid I had been to permanently straighten them out. The minute I saw the kinky roots come back through I breathed a sigh of relief that I hadn't permanently gotten rid of them. It took quite a while for my curls to grow back, but when my hairdresser cut the last straw like processed ends of the relaxer out of my hair, I cried with relief. It may sound dramatic, but I now wake up every day, look at my curls and thank the Lord for what he has blessed me with. I'll never take them for granted again.