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Timi after

Timi after

The months of napturality that followed my big chop were tumultuous. There were some really good days when my 'fro looked like a Black Power fist and seemed to scream "I am woman, hear me roar!" and there were days were people would look at my shrunken fro and say "you had such good hair. What a waste." I also struggled with acne early in my teenage years that left with with scars on my cheeks. Because I knew I had no hair to hide behind, I had to learn to love every inch of me.

Every morning, when I had doubts about my beauty, I learned to speak words of affirmation to myself. I would, and I still do this occasionally, look in the mirror and say to myself "I love myself, I love myself!" Now that I have been natural for almost two years, I wonder why I ever hid in the first place. Now that I have nothing to hide, I am more confident. Letting go of my hair was like removing a safety net. At first, I was nervous without it but then I learned I could make bolder steps on my own. I can share my smile, my scars, and my off-beat sense of style with the world and show them who I am. I hope I can inspire people to live boldly and richly. Why hide when you can shine?

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Nice. I finally did my BC last week. I was nervous and didn't know what to expect but afterwards I felt so liberated and beautiful. Yet, I simply like to switch my looks up. So, some days I rock my TWA others I rock a protective wig. For women, our hair is connected to our spirit. When we cut our hair it usually has a deeper meaning. For me, cutting lifeless hair meant letting go of the past, embracing and loving myself completely, and looking forward to a fresh start. I know I'm on the path to a brighter future!
Beautifully written. All of us who have done the BC can relate. Awesome reflection!
I completely agree! It sounds a little extreme but I do believe a big chop changes your entire perspective. It will revolutionize your concept of beauty.
My hair is 2a (basically) and is very dark. I used to dye it all sorts of funny colors for kicks so I frequently found myself shaving my head to start all over. So I know exactly what you mean about hiding behind your hair. I'm doing shoulder length now because it's lower maintenance for me than super short. Yet, I highly recommend most women cut all their hair off just once in their life. It's amazing how liberating it is to learn to love your whole self the way you describe.

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