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Dear CurlyNikki: Nikki, it takes lots of self-confidence to rock natural hair. How did you build your confidence? How did you find your swag in order to feel comfortable with and embrace your natural curls?

A:

  1. Educated myself on care methods and styling options. I became the expert at looking after my curls. It's the lack of skill and knowledge that will send you running back to that flat iron or relaxer.
  2. Practiced positive self talk and did my best to push the negative, self-defeating, and destructive thoughts from my mind.
  3. Took less stock in other people's opinions. That meant the compliments and the snide remarks. It was my thoughts and feelings that counted.
  4. Found a support network of amazing women at NaturallyCurly.com and later built one here at CurlyNikki.com. It helps knowing that you're not the only one going through it.


What about you?!

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It's rough to embrace something people found to be nappy or unattractive. Natural hair is not the norm and people just are haters. So it's like If I love my hair then that what gives me my self-confidence.
It is nice to see so many embracing who God made them. We must realize that we've based our image and acceptance on those who have oppressed us -who used negative insults to demean us over centuries. Internalized oppression & a desire to assimilate has contributed to the rejection of our natural beauty. Be free my sisters so that our daughters can be free too. In fact our hair is very versatile and we have always been creative,so You choose what works for You and not others. Be blessed!
Dear Nikki, I just realized that my hair type is more 4a instead of 2b. What's the best thing for my hair during transitioning. Especially while at home between visits to the hair salon. Thanks, Khadija
I completely agree with CurlyNikki's points about being at ease with your curls. As an adult I am embracing my hair in a way I never did as a child (although I think that comes naturally with age and experience.) If I could give my younger self a talking to, I would just tell myself to love what nature gave me and be grateful for the gift of curly locks.

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